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Wednesday, July 27, 2005

You Are Not An Accident!

I am your Creator. You were in My care even before you were born. ~Isaiah 44:2a

Day 2 of reading The Purpose-Driven Life by Rick Warren.

How many times in life do we rail at the circumstances of our birth? Resent the parents we ended up with? The body parts that don't quite work or fit? Or maybe it's the color of our skin or the part of the world in which we live that we take issue with.

As the last of eight children, with a six year difference between the closest sibling and myself, it really wasn't too hard to figure out that I was an unplanned addition to the family tree. That and the fact that I'd heard it mentioned on numerous occasions. Add to that the fact that I was born in the West Indies, and while my family wasn't poor, we were certainly not living large. I recall the restrictive atmosphere and the feeling of not fitting in because we were "Spiritual Baptists" (whatever that meant).

We weren't allowed to socialize outside the family circle. Although my elder siblings tried to be a buffer for me, it was clear that our family was not like everyone else's. But how could they explain, to a seven-year old, the dementia that can result when bi-polar disorder is left untreated, especially when they didn't even know that it existed themselves? All we knew was that Dad just wasn't too right in the head.

In my later research about bi-polar disorder I realized that I wasn't alone. Many famous people and even a former president have suffered from this mental illness. Somehow that information comforted me, validated the fact that I was going to be okay, that the stigma that surrounds mental illness would no longer control how I interacted with the people around me.

Isn't it funny how quick we are to accept and even desire validation and acceptance from the people around us, when the One whose opinion counts the most put His seal of approval on us before we were even born? Yet, we discount His opinion left, right and center.

Although it's hard to break the habits of a lifetime, I have learned to see each day as the gift it is, reveling in the knowledge that my parents were supposed to be my parents. My place of birth was the necessary soil in which my roots could grow and flourish. The color of my skin and the body parts with which I've had issues over the years all serve to add up to the unique package that is Dee.

I'm here to tell you today, that I am no accident...and neither are you!

Be blessed,
Dee

P.S. I've provided a short list of agencies and hotlines to get you started on the road to being the best you you can be!

What I Believe

What do I believe? In a nutshell?

 He lived
 He died
 He rose

The He to which I refer is my big brother, Jesus the Christ. As his younger sibling, my purpose in life is to share with all who would read or listen, what those three things have meant in my life and how you, too, can experience it.

The scripture says that faith comes by hearing the word, and believing in your heart that Jesus is who He says He is and that His blood shed on the cross was the ultimate sacrifice necessary to accomplish forgiveness of all sin. (Past, present and future).

Hearing and believing alone won't cut it though. It is necessary to demonstrate your faith by acting, making a conscious decision to choose God. A response, if you will, for His generous grace shown towards us.

How do you to this?

1) By acknowledging out loud that you have sinned
2) Believing in your heart that God raised Jesus from the dead; and then
3) You will be saved!

Peace,
Dee

Tuesday, July 26, 2005

It's Not About You!

Everything has been created through Him and for Him. ~Col 1:16b

“It isn’t? Does Dee know that?” is my usual joking response to the above title.

A co-worker and I began reading Rick Warren’s Purpose-Driven Life today. I read it aloud while she drove, and at the end of the chapter the thought to ponder was--you guessed it--“It’s not about me.” It called for reflection on areas of my life where I’d erected All-About-Dee altars and encouraged me to knock them down.

It brought to mind the fact that after I see my family on Sunday night, I may not see or speak to them again until Friday or Saturday. Interaction and activities with them always take so much of “my time” that I mire in protecting it.

The danger of this is my belief that time is mine to govern. This came home to me on Saturday past, when I watched as my brother-in-law listened to “Dance With My Father” by Luther Vandross and cried as he drove the two hours to New York (a scary proposition even as I prayed and patted him on the shoulder, keeping one eye on the road as we veered over the line). His much-loved dad had passed away suddenly while in Florida last April, on the eve of a surprise birthday celebration. Caught up in protecting “my time,” I had disassociated myself so much that I was desensitized to the fact that three months is not much healing time. I’d moved on and forgotten the call to “bear one another’s burdens.”

Sometimes, thinking about people and praying for them are just not enough. We need to reach out to them by phone or by a show of presence, whether it’s been a long day or not, heat boiling over or not. We need to just do it, in order to demonstrate that we realize our purpose and know that it’s just not always about us!

Peace,
Dee

What's On Here

Here's a site map/background information spot, so that you can zero in on the area that suits your purpose or need. Short on time? Utilize the Headings on the Sidebar to your left.

About me - Self Explanatory.

About this site - That's where you are now.

Mission: Getting the word out about my Heavenly Father, big brother Jesus the Christ and the awesomely empowering Holy Spirit. How? Through personal testimony and the sharing of sound doctrine in a simple, down to earth format.

Comments and questions are always welcome. I do ask that even in your disagreement with a statement or view, that you please be respectful in the phrasing of your comment.

Questions can be addressed to me, D.S. White, or to any of the contributors, Kenneth Aveirls, Sr., William Frederick Cooper or Christopher Donaldson, Sr.

If we don't have a ready answer...we're not going to front, we'll let you know, do some research, then get back to you.

In fact in the works and unveiling soon will be a section entitled "Ask a Contributor" wherein you may Email one of us with questions/comments you might have about God or about having a relationship with God as well as the FAQ & NFAQ - Not so Frequently Asked Questions.

Acronyms - A new spin on commonly used words. And for the history buff, clicking on the link will provide the background history of acronyms.

Christian Humor - In this section you will find jokes that poke fun at the idiosyncrasies we sometimes exhibit as Christians. I was about to generalize, but I'll speak on myself for a moment. A Christian since age seven, there have been times in my life that I'm sure my joyless facial expressions and humorless behavior has cast doubt on whether I really knew that "The joy of the Lord is my strength" or that I should "give thanks in all things." In retrospect, I realize that at these moments, my witness was a little shaky.

Because of Christians like myself, non-Christians have been getting the message that being a Christian is a joyless existence. Does this mean that we are never allowed to be sad? Of course not, but we should always be mindful of who and whose we are and that "weeping may endure for a night but joy will come in the morning."

These collection of jokes are my contribution towards dispelling the myth that Christians are not fun people and we do in fact have a sense of humor. In addition, if it serves the two-fold purpose of bringing a lift to a saddened spirit, even better. Feel free to submit via the comments section, any you'd like me to add to the collection.

Credits - Here you'll find the bio's and pics of all contributors, myself included. I find that I attribute a little more merit to the words of someone I'm about to read, when I know a little something about them. That lets me know their slant, if you will, for we've all got prejudices and speak from our experiences...don't we?

Daily Reads - This section accidentally evolved. I was looking for more graphic headers for this template and while scrolling, I came across the "Daily Read" graphic. At first I was like, daily reads on a blog? How moronic...isn't that what a Blog is anyway?

Then I received an email from a friend with a Word for the day and it was right on time. I was like, this brother is holding it down, and so many folks think that there are no men in the church...when...lightbulb!

Why not dedicate the daily reads section to words/testimonies from MOG- Men of God who are active in their churches and communities? Not only would it be a word sown into daily lives, it would also be a testament to other men thinking, Christianity is whack or for people with issues. It would also be an example for the borderline Christians...one day in, one day out, and last but not least, a source of hope for the single and saved Christian women, like myself, who wonder Sunday after Sunday..."Where the men at in the churches?"

Or maybe that was just me? But just in case, I'm not alone in my questionion state of mind. They're out there...in all walks of life...hold on! Mentors, musicians, teachers, pastors, deacons, doctors, nurses, chefs, mechanics, lawyers, executives, entrepreneurs and more...commonality? They're living a life that is pleasing to God.

Encouragement - This is the warm, fuzzy section where your is it me or...questions will most likely be answered. It may take the form of dispelling myths or it might just be straight up H2O
delivered in what I like to call my keeping-it-real-for-God style of writing.

Friends - Links to sites by friends and acquaintances.

Poetry - Poetry written by yours truly. Don't expect this area to be too prolific, I'm not really a poetess but every once in a while, I get lucky.

Prayers - Another area in which I feel inadequate. Inadequate you say? How does a Christian not know how to pray? Isn't praying just a conversation or dialogue with God? Exactly!

It has taken me thirty-two years to realize that point. I speak, God listens, then God speaks and I listen.

Oftentimes we proffer a monologue to God, then just as He's ready to speak, we're off and about our daily tasks satisfied in the fact that we've spoken to God. So now, I'm painfully aware and unsure of my inability to pray! And guess who does the congregational prayer most Sundays? Yup...you got it...yours truly.

Like many Christians before me, I didn't realize that there are key ingredients to prayer as well as many types of prayer.

In this area join me on my journey as I explore what prayer is, how to pray, types of prayers and prayers that God answers. I will also post prayers that evolve during this journey, such as "My Prayer"

Resources - An admitted websurfing junkie and collector of information, this is the area that makes all that time spent surfing worthwhile for others beside myself. As I mentioned earlier in the Contributors section, although we are not confined or defined by our experiences, they do however serve to shape us into the people we become. Having suffered from a lack of knowledge, part of my gift to anyone who would care to avail themselves of it, is the provision of resources and helplines for women and teens in precarious situations. If you know of any or are one yourself, please choose you and break the cycle or pass on the information to the one who needs it.

Later on will come the listing of beauty salons, book stores and the like...

Testimonies - Ever know or heard of someone so hard headed that the only way they learned a lesson, was through pain and suffering? Yup...thas me. I share, not because I think I'm an awesome writer, not because I'm dwelling, but because I've finally chosen me. Not the broken me, but the me I see in God's word. "The me He spoke about when He inspired the writer to pen the words:


"I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not bring you
harm, plans to restore your hope and provide for your future...then you'll call
upon me and I will listen to you."

It's with that same inspiration, I pen my testimonies, so that you can see His awesome chain breaking power for I am who I am, by the grace of God.

Thinking - Random thoughts about any and everything as they occur.


Links - Links to my other sites. If you've a site or blog of your own, feel free to submit for consideration for linkage.

Previous Posts - The fifteen or so, most recent posts and posts that didn't make it to the sidebar.

Archives - Older posts grouped by month.

Who Links Here - This is where I check out who thinks this blog is worth linking to.

Disclaimer - This is where I cover my butt...lol. For a precise explanation, click the link.

D.S. White will not be held responsible for any addiction to the sheer entertainment, inspiration and/or usefulness of this blog. As with all things, use what you can, discard what you can’t and by all means share what you will with others. However, do keep in mind that common sense and necessary precautions are to be utilized when trying any links supplied herein.

Copyright - Now I hate to get heavy, but aside from forwarding to someone via email or printing out a copy to pass on, please do not desseminate any material on here, without prior permission. All contributions herein are protected by copyright and right to use remain with the individual author.

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Friday, July 22, 2005

Ideas

Issues

At forty, I finally realize that there's no shame in admitting that I have had, and still do have issues. It's that very freedom that I wish to share with you, because the first step to finding the solution, is admitting that there's a problem.

You not find a list of all the numerous issues that exist, here on this page. What you will find are issues that have affected me or a loved one, along with any helpful resources I have located through research or personal experience.

NOTE: While the intent of this page is to assist you, please note that I am not a Licensed Practitioner. But I am fully licensed to take prayer requests and to let you know that despite what your life is like or has been like, you are no accident!

Abuse:

  • LOVE: Introduction
  • LOVE: In Search Of
  • Spousal Abuse: Knows No Boundaries

  • Death:

  • Dealing With Death - Part I
  • Dealing With Death - Part II

  • Dealing With Death - Part III

  • Emotions:

  • Jealousy
  • Selfishness
  • Unforgiveness
  • Mental Health:

  • Issues: Life's Equalizer
  • You Are Not An Accident!

    Relationships:

  • Infidelity: Where Does It Begin?
  • Spousal Abuse: Knows No Boundaries
  • Wednesday, July 20, 2005

    Stay Salty!

    by Kenneth Aveirls, Sr.

    You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled by men. ~Matt 5:13 - Mk 9:50; Lk 14:34,35 13 Mk 9:50; Lk 14:34-35
    How could salt be that valuable? Listen to this. 40 million tons are required each year to fill our needs. In ancient Greece, a far-flung trade involving the exchange of salt for slaves gave rise to the _expression, "...not worth his salt." Special salt rations were given to Roman soldiers which were known as "Solarium Argentums" the forerunner of the English word "Salary." Thousands of Napoleon’s troops died during his retreat from Moscow because their wounds would not heal from lack of salt. The human body contains about 4oz. of salt. Without enough of it, muscles won’t contract, blood won’t circulate, food won’t digest and the heart won’t beat a beat. Without a doubt, salt is the essence of life. And Jesus said, "Ye are the salt of the earth..."

    1. Salt adds flavoring! It doesn’t take a lot of salt to flavor your stew. If you add too much salt, it becomes inedible. Salt is an interesting mineral. I’m told that the saltiest product on the McDonald’s menu is not the fries, but the milk shakes because salt makes a sweet thing taste sweeter. Too much salt, by itself, can make you sick. Yet without salt, you would die. When you talk about salt as flavoring for food, salt must be used in the right quantity.

    If you call yourself by "HIS" name, you ought to be able to bring the best flavor out of people!

    2. Salt melts ice! One of the interesting things about salt is that when it’s used, it loses itself. You don’t see salt in your food because it makes its contribution and then it’s gone. When it’s used in various chemical processes, it dissipates after fulfilling its purpose. Salt used on icy highways makes winter travel safe and then it disappears. In the same ways, Christians who are the salt of the earth don’t hesitate to give of themselves without needing to be seen. As we take on the character of salt, one of two things is going to happen: (1) our conduct will help to melt cold hearts or (2) our godly character will bring an indictment against the sinner who elects to turn us out (ALL ALL ALL ALL have sinned and fallen short!)

    3. Salt heals wounds! Ancient remedies for lacerated wounds included pouring salt into open wounds as an antiseptic. Many people are cut to the quick by brokenness and hurts and the only remedy is the character of a salty Christian! Instead of tearing folks down, we need to build them up! Instead of kicking folks out, we need to pull them in! Instead of stabbing folks in the back, we need to pat them on the back! Instead of cussing folks, we need to bless them!

    Some of the same people who lift Holy hands on Sunday, won't give a kind hand Monday - Saturday!

    Some of the same people who praise God on Sunday, won't speak to you in the Parking Lot after Worship!

    Some of the same people who try to tell YOU what to do, household is more mixed up than a "Feather in a Whirlwind"!

    Stay Salty!

    Copyright (c) 2005 by Kenneth Aveirls, Sr.

    Sunday, July 17, 2005

    Testimonies

    Ever know or heard of someone so hard headed that the only way they learned a lesson, was through pain and suffering? Yup...that's me. I share, not because I think I'm an awesome writer, not because I'm dwelling, but because I've finally chosen me. Not the broken me, but the me I see in God's word. "The me He spoke about when He inspired the writer to pen the words:

    "I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not bring you harm, plans to restore your hope and provide for your future...then you'll call upon me and I will listen to you."
    It's with that same inspiration, I pen my testimonies, so that you can see His awesome chain breaking power! For I am who I am, by the grace of God.

    But the beautiful thing about a testimony, is that everyone has one! If you'd care to share, please do submit yours.

  • Aloneness: A Gift?
  • Compassion: God's Introduction
  • Resources

    An admitted websurfing junkie and collector of information, this is the area that makes all that time spent surfing worthwhile for others beside myself. As I mentioned earlier in the Contributors section, although we are not confined or defined by our experiences, they do however serve to shape us into the people we become.

    Having suffered from a lack of knowledge, part of my gift to anyone who would care to avail themselves of it, is the provision of resources and helplines for women and teens in precarious situations. If you know of any or are one yourself, please choose you and break the cycle or pass on the information to someone who needs it.

    Later on will come the listing of beauty salons, book stores and the like...


  • Abuse/Domestic Violence/Mental Health/Rape/Suicide (Alphabetized Listings)



  • Abuse/Domestic Violence/Mental Health/Rape/Suicide (Categorized Listings)



  • Assist Katrina Victims



  • Dealing With Death
  • Poetry

    Poetry written by yours truly. Don't expect this area to be too prolific, I'm not really a poetess but every once in a while, I get lucky.

    Enjoy...

  • The Strong Black Woman Is Dead! Or Is She?
  • Prayer Closet

    Prayer - Another area in which I feel inadequate. Inadequate you say? How does a Christian not know how to pray? Isn't praying just a conversation or dialogue with God? Exactly!

    It has taken me thirty-two years to realize that point. I speak, God listens, then God speaks and I listen.

    Oftentimes we proffer a monologue to God, then just as He's ready to speak, we're off and about our daily tasks satisfied in the fact that we've spoken to God. So now, I'm painfully aware and unsure of my inability to pray! And guess who does the congregational prayer most Sundays? Yup...you got it...yours truly.

    Like many Christians before me, I didn't realize that there are key ingredients to prayer as well as many types of prayer.

    In this area join me on my journey as I explore what prayer is, how to pray, types of prayers and prayers that God answers. I will also post prayers that evolve during this journey, such as "My Prayer Today"

    Disclaimer

    This is where I cover my butt...lol. For a precise discription, click here. Now for my disclaimer language:

    D.S. White will not be held responsible for any addiction to the sheer entertainment, inspiration and/or usefulness of this blog. As with all things, use what you can, discard what you can’t and by all means share what you will with others. However, do keep in mind that common sense and necessary precautions are to be utilized when trying any links supplied herein.

    The end, glad that's over with.

    Copyright

    Now I hate to get heavy, but aside from forwarding to someone via email or printing out a copy to pass on, please do not desseminate any material on here, without prior permission. All contributions herein are protected by copyright and right to use remain with the individual authors).

    You may read the definition of it here.

    Musings

    This is where I just ramble on about random thoughts and things that strike me as worthy of discussion.

  • A Luther Vandross Moment
  • Dealing With Death
  • Fasting: As In No Food?
  • It's Not About You!
  • Jehovah Shalom
  • Ruminating
  • What's In A Name?
  • What Limits You?
  • What Song Are You Feeling?
  • Q&A's

    Okay people as promised the Q&A's section is now officially open for business, so to speak. So bring them come (as they say in Jamaica) or bring it! (as we say in the US).

    The first question started by yours truly is:

  • Infidelity: Where Does it Begin?
  • Encouragement

    This is the warm, fuzzy section where your is it me or...questions will most likely be answered. It may take the form of dispelling myths or it might just be straight up H2O delivered in what I like to call my keeping-it-real-for-God style of writing.

    Be encouraged people!


  • Been There, Done That

  • Just Do It!

  • You Are Not An Accident!
  • Clean Humor

    In this section you will find jokes and anecdotes that poke fun at the idiosyncrasies we sometimes exhibit as Christians. I was about to generalize, but I'll speak on myself for a moment. A Christian since age seven, there have been times in my life that I'm sure my joyless facial expressions and humorless behavior has cast doubt on whether I really knew that "The joy of the Lord is my strength" or that I should "give thanks in all things." In retrospect, I realize that at these moments, my witness was a little shaky.

    Because of Christians like myself, non-Christians have been getting the message that being a Christian is a joyless existence. Does this mean that we are never allowed to be sad? Of course not, but we should always be mindful of who and whose we are and that "weeping may endure for a night but joy will come in the morning."

    These collection of jokes are my contribution towards dispelling the myth that Christians are not fun people and we do in fact have a sense of humor. In addition, if it serves the two-fold purpose of bringing a lift to a saddened spirit, even better. Feel free to submit via the comments section, any you'd like me to add to the collection.

  • 10 Ways You Can Tell If You're Shouting Too Much In Church
  • Double Check Your Email Addresses
  • Honk If You Love Jesus
  • Human Resources Orientation
  • Out of the Mouth of Babes
  • Senior Moments
  • The Ten Commandments(Ebonics Style)
  • Thou Shalt Not Kill
  • Welcome to New York!
  • Daily Reads

    This section accidentally evolved. I was looking for more graphic headers for my old template template and while scrolling, I came across the "Daily Read" graphic. At first I was like, daily reads on a blog? How moronic...isn't that what a Blog is anyway?

    Then I received an email from a friend with a Word for the day and it was right on time. I was like, this brother is holding it down, and so many folks think that there are no men in the church...when...lightbulb!

    Why not dedicate the daily reads section to words/testimonies from MOG- Men of God who are active in their churches and communities? Not only would it be a word sown into daily lives, it would also be a testament to other men thinking, Christianity is whack or for people with issues. It would also be an example for the borderline Christians...one day in, one day out, and last but not least, a source of hope for the single and saved Christian women, like myself, who wonder Sunday after Sunday..."Where the men at in the churches?"

    Or maybe that was just me? But just in case, I'm not alone in my questionion state of mind. They're out there...in all walks of life...hold on! Mentors, musicians, teachers, pastors, deacons, doctors, nurses, chefs, mechanics, lawyers, executives, entrepreneurs and more...commonality? They're living a life that is pleasing to God.

    So without further ado...I give you--Daily Reads!

  • Burn Your Ship!
  • Death Works In You

  • Divine Appointments

  • Freedom

  • Going Against the Flow

  • The Greatest Test

  • Humility In Relationships

  • It's a Celebration! Enjoy Yourself!

  • Jealousy

  • Just Jesus!

  • Our Plans and God's Plans

  • Spiritual Necrophiliacs

  • Stay Salty!

  • Step Aside...Let Faith In!

    • Contributors

      Here are the bio's and pics of all contributors, myself included. I find that I attribute a little more merit to the words of someone I'm about to read, when I know a little something about them. That lets me know their slant, if you will, for we've all got prejudices and speak from our experiences...don't we?


    • Aveirls, Sr., Kenneth




    • Burns, Terry



    • Campbell, Jason




    • Cooper, William F.




    • Donaldson, Sr., Christopher



    • Hutcherson, Roderick Desmond



    • Samdumu, Faga




    • White, D.S.
    • About This Site

      Here's a site map/background information spot, so that you can zero in on the area that suits your purpose or need.

      More About Me
      Mission Statement
      Acronyms
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      Prayer Closet
      Resources
      Testimonies

      More About Me

      Why I Blog?
      What I Believe

      Acronyms

      Acronyms - A new spin on commonly used words. And for the history buff, clicking on the link will provide the background history of acronyms.

      D-I-V-A
      D-I-V-I-N-E

      Mission Statement

      Mission:
      Getting the word out about my Heavenly Father, big brother Jesus the Christ and the awesomely empowering Holy Spirit. How? Through personal testimony and the sharing of sound doctrine in this simple, down to earth format.

      Comments and questions are always welcome. I do ask that even in your disagreement with a statement or view, that you please be respectful in the phrasing of your comment.

      Questions can be addressed to me, D.S. White, or to any of the contributors, Kenneth Aveirls, Sr., William Frederick Cooper or Christopher Donaldson, Sr.

      If we don't have a ready answer...we're not going to front, we'll let you know, do some research, then get back to you.

      In fact in the works and unveiling soon will be a section entitled "Ask a Contributor" wherein you may Email one of us with questions/comments you might have about God or about having a relationship with God as well as the FAQ & NFAQ - Not so Frequently Asked Questions.

      Saturday, July 09, 2005

      First Monthly Mother and Daughter Day

      "Fear is that little darkroom where negatives are developed." -Michael Pritchard

      Upon reflection, I'd have to say that the first Mother/Daughter day instituted by yours truly, mother, and Alethea (affectionately known as Leti), daughter, went off without a hitch!

      • Venue:- Dorney Park
      • Goal: -Ride or die! (Literally from a heart attack from some of those scary rides, or so I thought, but, we resolved to get our money's worth, for even with the lovely company discount of $25 per ticket vs $36.95 at the park, it was still fiddy dollars!)
      • Aftermath: - Lutherfest!

      gotta go to bed...to be continued...

      Why I Blog?

      I blog because I'm happy
      I blog because I'm free...lol

      Seriously though, I was one of those kids who took to the diary craze like the thirsty to a drink of water. Perhaps because of the fact that everything was internalized in my family, no one spoke about their thoughts, feelings, dreams or ambitions. At least, not that I can recall. We were all frantically trying to survive the dysfunction that was our daily lives.

      So upon being introduced to the idea of journaling at 14, I took to it like a duck to water. There I could elaborate on my angst, my confusion, my questions, my desires without being shut down or back handed for back chatting.

      This joy was however curtailed at 15, when I came upon my mother reading my diary. I'd forgotten to lock it that day. She then proceeded to question me about several entries, demanding explanations for my thoughts! Ah the betrayal I felt at the invasion of my privacy and on top of that I could not voice my anger, because that would been have considered "rudeness".

      I don't think I ever forgave her for the unfairness of that. It just took the joy right out of journaling for me and I quit it. Now that I think about it, that probably had a direct correlation to the angst I began to experience, for it's a proven fact that journaling is cathartic and self-revelatory.

      It bothered me so much that as an adult I mentioned it to her and that I felt she was wrong to invade my privacy like that, then question me about it. Wouldn't you know she stuck to her guns and asserted her right as a parent to know what was going on with me?

      While as a parent myself I understand the need to know and the concern fueling her curiosity, I still believe it was wrong of her to read it. I did try to learn from that incident, though. I did buy my daughter a diary, encouraged her to utitilize it, and no I didn't read it. I did however let her know the purpose and use of a diary, while stipulating that if there was anything, anything at all she didn't understand, she'd always have an open ear. And that if I didn't appear approachable, there was always her grandmother, aunt, uncle, cousin etc.

      So I've journaled on and off over the years, and embraced the computer era by beginning a file on a home computer. I had great stuff on there, funny, hilarious and downright zany moments. All lost to a virus. Lesson learned? Backup discs.

      Upon learning about blogging via a post in one of my yahoo writers' groups...I took a peek at one and loved the simple clean lines as well as the fact that it dated, organized and archived for you as well. I thought about it for ooo a sec, then opened up an account of my own. This started out as an all about me moment, but the more I wrote, and people responded to just my everyday thoughts, the more I realized the power of the written word.

      So since I've been thinking for about 39 years now...I decided that some of what I've thought and researched and experienced over that time frame, could benefit someone else, besides me.

      So please check out About This Site (site map) or What's on Here (background information about each section) to see which area suits your needs.

      Welcome to my world,
      Dee

      Friday, July 08, 2005

      Death Works In You

      By Christopher Donaldson, Sr.

      We do not want you to be uninformed, brothers, about the hardships we suffered in the province of Asia. We were under great pressure, far beyond our ability to endure, so that we despaired even of life. Indeed, in our hearts we felt the sentence of death. But this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God, who raises the dead. ~ 2 Corinthians 1:8-9
      Have you ever gone through a very difficult time in your life? These times make us value life. They make us appreciate the simple things that we took for granted before the crisis. When we are restored from such a trial, it is as though we have been given a new beginning. We can place a greater value on what we had before and use it for His purposes. Perhaps for the first time we can identify with others who find themselves in a similar trial.

      I recall having an attitude of superiority over those who went through a difficult financial crisis. Because I had never experienced any financial crisis in my life, this pride kept me from identifying with such people. Then the Lord brought such a trial into my life. I learned a great deal during that period. I learned that the world and even Christians often treat such people as lepers. Like me, they didn't know how to relate. Now, I appreciate the little things that I never would have valued without that trial. The experience taught me greater dependence and faith in the provision area of my relationship with God.

      When God brings death to one area of life, he resurrects it in a new way. Death works in us to bring new life and new perspectives. These are designed to press us forward in ways that we never would have moved without the experience. God knows how much this is needed in our life to gain the prize He has reserved for each of us. It is His strategic mercy that motivates Him to bring such events into our life. Press into Him, learn of Him, and rely on Him.

      Copyright (c) 2005 by Christopher Donaldson, Sr.

      DIVA

      D = Divine

      1 a : of, relating to, or proceeding directly from God or a god (divine)
      b : being a deity (the)
      c : directed to a deity (divine)

      I = Inimitable

      : not capable of being imitated

      V= Vessel of the

      1 a : a container (as a hogshead, bottle, kettle, cup, or bowl) for holding something b : a person into whom some quality (as grace) is infused

      2 : a watercraft bigger than a rowboat; especially : SHIP 13 a : a tube or canal (as an artery) in which a body fluid is contained and conveyed or circulated

      b : a conducting tube in the xylem of a vascular plant formed by the fusion and loss of end walls of a series of cells

      A = Almighty

      1 : having absolute power over all
      2 : relatively unlimited in power
      3 : great in magnitude or seriousness

      Thursday, July 07, 2005

      Been There, Done That

      I've been having a funky week since Tuesday, vacillating between up, down, and around. Feeling the kind of desolation some say a child of God shouldn't feel.

      To them I say...Bah humbug! It's that train of thought that traps us into walking around pretending we've got our act together, while slowly splintering inside. Been there, done that...writing the memoir.

      I'm here to tell you today, that there's nothing wrong with your spiritual walk, if you feel lost, alone, afraid, abandoned or whatever your feeling of the moment may be. As long as you're on this earth, you and I are privy to all the emotional fallouts that assail the good, the bad, the ugly and yes--the Godly.

      But, unlike the ungodly, we have promises just for these moments in life:

      Sad?
      Weeping may endure for the night, but joy comes in the morning.

      Stuck?
      There's a time and purpose for everything under heaven.

      Abandoned?
      When your mother and father forsake you, the Lord will take you up.

      Scared?
      Lo, I am with you...always.

      Threatened?
      No weapon formed against you shall prosper.

      Inadequate?
      I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

      Questioning?
      All things work together for good for those who love the Lord and are called according to His purpose!

      I don't know about you, but I'm starting to feel better already.

      Have a blessed day folks!

      Peace,
      Dee

      Song for today:

      All in All
      From Modern Worship Soundtracks

      You are my strength when I am weak
      You are the treasure that I seek
      You are my all in all

      Seeking you as a precious jewel
      Were I to give up I’d be a fool
      You are my all in all

      Chorus:
      Jesus, Lamb of God
      Worthy is Your name
      Jesus, Lamb of God
      Worthy is Your name

      Taking my sin my cross my shame
      Rising again I bless Your name
      You are my all in all

      When I fall down You pick me up
      When I am dry You fill my cup
      You are my all in all

      Chorus:

      If you’d like to hear it, click this link and choose a version.

      Tuesday, July 05, 2005

      A Luther Vandross Moment

      I just came across this moving tribute to Luther and had to respond:

      MY HOUSE IS STILL A HOME
      by William Fredrick Cooper

      It's been three days, and it still hasn't sunk in. God, I miss him. But he's home now, dancing with his father. Smiling from heaven, he's no longer suffering the effects of his stroke; in fact he's probably singing in front of Barry White's Love Unlimited Orchestra. I can't wait to hear that duet with Phyllis Hyman. (We lost them all on or around July 4th Weekend)

      Do you remember where you were when you received the news that a friend to some and lover to all was gone? I was in a car, 5:30 Friday Afternoon, homeward bound, when the news came. Letting out a scream, I was hoping the Bad Boy would allow listeners to see how much our friend impacted his life. Didn't want to talk about death on a Friday, came the terse, idiotic response. Immediately, I turned the dial to a more compassionate deejay.

      As the numbness thawed and the tears came, I thought of his legacy, and oh, that voice. Smooth as Velvet, powerful as a hurricane of love, he was quality personified. No one will ever replicate, or even come close to his vocal artistry. Now I know how people felt when moved to tears by a Nat King Cole, Sam Cooke song. Luther Vandross was for our generation what they were for my parents.

      As I now listen to Dance With My Father, I am blessed to have seen him in concert seven times, the last as a surprise birthday present in 2002, a year before the music stopped. He was even better in concert, for he never cheated us. After making Love to us by way of song for two hours, we always wanted more. If He could have stayed for 10 hours, no one would have left the arenas. Can I get an Amen?

      Ladies, LUTHER WAS MY MAN. Let Me Explain;When I couldn't tell you I LOVE YOU, I spent many a night under red lights in my bedroom making "pause button slow tapes." EVERY ONE culminated with a powerful Luther song. He always knew what I wanted to express to you.

      He sure had a way of making love feel so good, didn't he? A house was not a home without him. Love Wouldn't Let Him Wait; he coveted the Here and Now. After telling us to Buy Her A Rose, he and Gregory Hines Gave Me A Reason: There's Nothing Better Than Love. From He Who Had Nothing he wanted us If Only For One Night. When caught Creepin', we had to forgive him, for He Really Didn't Mean It. Searchin' for the truth, he had the Glow Of Love as Anyone Who Has a Heart would.

      Wanting The Night To Stay, I gotta Rush that told me to Never Let Go of my quest for Any Love. His music was Never Too Much to listen to. I can't believe this man lost at the Apollo seven times (!) and was known for doing KFC jingles.

      The tears have dried again, for I am grateful that he left behind so much of him. All weekend long, his songs told the story of my life. Crying, dancing, singing, burning CD's for my mother, thinking of his live performances I captured - Sometimes alone, Sometimes Not - I realized my house is still a home, because his love for song and love itself will live inside me for the rest of my days.

      I love you, Luther. Thanks for being you.
      William Fredrick Cooper

      RE: MY HOUSE IS STILL A HOME...
      I feel you on that. My daughter grew up knowing Luther. While I was doing the audition thing in NY, the poor child would hide my cassettes for a brief respite.

      Every Sunday at church we have a moment in African history. Well, the minister in charge forgot her folder at home and made the mistake of saying, “Does anyone have anything to say about a person who's impacted their lives?”

      I was like…LUTHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA (in my head of course, cause this was church)

      I demurely stood up, and spoke on Luther.

      I spoke about my hope that he would pull through, for I’d figured that with the support and prayers of so many, when he pulled through, the brother would be singing gospel or contemporary Christian. And since Luther singing secular was enough to quicken the deadest spirit…picture Luther singing gospel! Folks would be back flipping down the aisles.

      (Of course, I didn’t add the part about the “Power of Love” concert my elder sister and I attended…wherein I realized exactly why folks acted so scandalously at concerts I’d seen on TV). One woooooo was enough to raise goosebumps. Two or three …thoughts of swooning, but then I might miss some of the concert! Claustro-what? I forgot I that I was claustrophobic and screamed myself hoarse. It was an experience I wouldn’t have missed for the world!)

      So, Luther singing gospel wasn’t a part of God’s plan, but I am thankful for his contribution to the many moments of my life. When I wanted an example of how a riff should be sung…Luther, when I needed a lift in general…Luther, when I wanted to set the mood…Luther.

      But, noticing the glazed expressions of folks closest to me, I wound up my ode to Luther and took my seat.

      His legacy will be a hard act to follow.

      Peace,
      Dee

      P.S. At the BBQ after church, my heart swelled with joy, when my daughter suggested that next weekend, she would be coming home for a Luther fest!

      Just Jesus

      By Kenneth Aveirls, Sr.

      Colossians 2:8-10

      From a dank, poorly lit jail cell in Rome, the itinerant Elder from Tarsus writes a Pastoral Letter to the church folks at Colossae. Hmmmm. . .did I say jail? Yes! This member of the aristocracy,

      Circumcised the eighth day
      Of the stock of Israel
      Of the tribe of Benjamin,
      An Hebrew of Hebrews
      As touching the law, a Pharisee,
      Concerning zeal, persecuting the church
      Touching the righteousness which is in the law. . . .blameless!

      Here he sits. . .in the brig, in the cooler, in the penitentiary, on “lockdown”, and in the hoosegow!

      Reverend Doctor Paul had to explain to his church members that angels were just angels. The congregation at Colossae believed that angels were divine creatures, less than God, but divine, who performed different functions. There was an angel for the household, another angel for the farm, another angel for the livestock, etc., etc. These angels were the conduit. . .the medium between God and men. It is by this train of thought, that you had to depend on the power of the angels, rather than the “Master’s Hand”. Well, modern day saints do the same! On Sunday, we worship a God that we’ve never seen. . . and turn right around on Monday, and pick up the “HORROR”-Scope section. We worship our cars, our clothes, our jewelry, our church building, our homes, our children, our spouse, our place of employment, our checking accounts, our stock portfolio!

      Dr. Paul tells us, that all of this stuff. . .is just chicken scratch and flea fodder! There’s only one inexhaustible source that we can continuously go to. . .and that is Jesus Christ. The Hymn Writer reminds us: “The world is hungry, for the Living Bread! Here’s the answer Jesus gave the key! Said if I. . .If I be lifted up from the earth, will draw all men unto me!” With Jesus, we need no substitutes, no “fillers”, no additives, no preservatives, no “energy drinks”! Just Jesus! That’s all you need!

      You don’t need somebody to send you a prayer cloth!

      Jesus said, “And whatever things you ask in prayer, believing, you will receive." - Just Jesus!

      You don’t need somebody to pour holy water on you!

      Jesus said, “but whoever drinks of the water that I shall give him will never thirst!” – Just Jesus!

      Jesus is all we need!

      He starts with us during childhood – “Suffer not the little children to come unto me.”

      He’s with us during adulthood – “Come unto me, all ye that labor and heavy laden, and I’ll give you rest!”

      He’s the lighthouse for those who are lost – “The Son of man is come to seek and to save that which was lost!”

      He finds us in the muck and mire of sin – “Go, and sin no more!”

      He pays us a House Call when we are sick – “Wilt thou be made whole?”

      He’s there when our friends aren’t around – “I’ll never leave you. . .nor forsake you!”

      He’s our tour guide across the Jordan River when Death pays us a visit – “In my Father’s house. . .is a place for you”!

      Just Jesus!
      Just Jesus!
      Just Jesus!

      Glory Hallelujah. . . . Just Jesus!

      Copyright (c) 2005 by Kenneth Aveirls, Sr.